This is a hard lesson to come by from. Understanding that my values only depend on my rituals, my habits and my opinions. I say this a lot but again, other’s actions and voices in our head cripple us. Realizing that the voice has been put there by someone else, whether that’s a parent, relative, girlfriend, friends or anybody literally. That helps. Why? Because when you realize, you start to understand your value and you only hear your voice which leads to not judging yourself. We all suck at something but doesn’t mean you suck as a person. Someone else’s opinions mean shit when you only listen to you and only you. If someone fails to accept you, it has nothing to do with you. If someone fails you, that also has nothing to do with you.
Your values are based upon what you think of yourself and not what others think of you.